Do you Feel like your life is out of balance? Too much work on your plate? Too many demands from your family? No time to do it all—let alone do it well or steal an hour of “you time”? Then dont feel like you are alone! As a Business Owner, Mom and Wife, I rarely have time to squeeze in for Me Time! However, I know the importance of having that me time, so I make it a part of my schedule. Otherwise, Im left feeling overwhelmed, burnt out and unhappy. According to Recent research has shown that women today are less happy than they have been over the past 40 years. There are many theories about why, but lack of free time can be a major reason. <— This confirms the importance of taking time each day to do something for yourself.
But how can you make it happen?
Make Yourself a Priority
First, realize how important it is! If youre like the other millions of women including myself, you may feel guilty putting yourself first, But think about it this way, if you are not healthy, then you can not provide for your family. And besides, taking care of yourself will make you a better parent and partner and Business Owner. Not only that, You’ll be more fun to be around and more responsive to your family.”
OK, so you’re convinced. It’s time to take time for you. Now, when can you fit it in? Don’t wait for the time to just magically appear. It won’t.
Schedule Your “Me” Time
Make your free time as important as the pediatrician’s visit, the conference call, and your meeting with the contractor. Treat it just like any other appointment. Try to find at least half an hour to an hour every day for you. It doesn’t have to be all at once. And before you decide what you’re going to do with the time you’re building into your schedule, promise yourself that you won’t waste it.
Here are some ways you can incorporate “Me Time” in your schedule Daily!
If You Have 5-10 Minutes
- Sit on the porch with a cup of coffee and the newspaper. Or a cup of coffee and no newspaper. Just watch the clouds go by. No phone or calendar allowed.
- Call a friend to chat. This doesn’t mean planning the bake sale or organizing the neighborhood watch — just talk, without an agenda.
- Move. Get up from your desk, stretch, and walk around the block or up and down a flight of stairs.
- Breathe deeply. While you’re sitting in your office, car, or home, focus on breathing slowly and gently for five minutes. It’s OK if your mind wanders a bit, but don’t start planning what you have to do next — just follow your breath.
- Pet your pet. Focus for five minutes on cuddling with cat or dog. You’ll both feel better.
- Put on your iPod and hit shuffle. Then just sit and listen.
If You Have 15-30 Minutes
- Read one chapter of a book you’ve wanted to make time for. Keep a basket in your office or living room with a good book, magazine, crossword puzzle, or other short escapes.
- Find a nearby park and go for a brisk walk.
- Putter. This doesn’t mean cleaning the house or organizing your kids’ clothes. Instead, it means doing little things at home that you enjoy, like trimming the rose bush and putting together a bouquet for your office or kitchen.
- Soak in the tub. If you’re a parent, make sure another adult is on duty to make sure no one’s going to yell “Mom!” Plan so you’ll have some fabulous bath goodies on hand. Don’t forget a glass of ice water or wine.
If You Have 30-60 Minutes
- Get a massage, a facial, or a mani-pedi.
- Take a nap.
- Schedule a class that you’ve always wanted to take just for fun. For instance, Amy Tiemann took an improv comedy class to get a night to herself after her daughter was born.
- Plan a long walk with a friend. Commit to it early in the week and honor the commitment. You’re not training for anything, you’re not trying to race-walk, you’re just taking a long stroll with a good friend and enjoying the day.
Add your own favorites to these lists. Whatever you choose to do with your “me” time, make it relaxing and restorative.
Feel free to leave some suggestions below!